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Published on February 11, 2007 By just john In Home & Family
Friday night we spent the night with Tabitha at the hospital. They call it the bonding room. I think it is really more of a test to see if you can make it through the night unassisted with your baby.

I guess we passed because she came home with us yesterday afternoon. (We didn't really have to do it because we visit so often but we did it just get used to the fact that we now really have children)

It is so strange because I know the usual routine. Mom goes to the hospital and mom and baby go home. They have been mine for over a month but it still hasn't felt real. I visit at lunch each day and then after work but I have to say goodbye and go home. The nurses take over and the real work begins. A night filled with feedings, changings and the occasional cry.

We brought Tabitha home yesterday and spent our first night at home with her. It went well, not exactly according to plan but well none the less. We are lucky because the nurses stick to a strict schedule so we just need to follow that schedule and deal with the occasional upset baby. I didn't get a whole lot of sleep according to that schedule but Tabitha was just fine.

All of the babies are on a three hour schedule and we hope that in a few weeks we can move them to a four hour schedule and in a couple of months we should have them sleeping mostly through the night. I know that may sound presumptuous to some because we are first time parents but we have had the benefit of some very talented professionals giving us lessons everyday on how to 'do it'. Quite a bit more than the 'parenting' class the hospital had us take as part of our discharge.

While we had hoped to bring them all home at the same time, I am sure breaking us in lightly will be the better method. Parrish and Chloe will be home very soon. They have made it past all of the things they need to do before going home except for feeding from the bottle every feeding. They were moved up to two bottles in a row and then one feeding through their feeding tube *rinse and repeat* yesterday. It was about a week after Tabitha made that change that we were taking her home.

My house is about to get busy...

I'm gonna love it!

Comments
on Feb 11, 2007

My guess....the sleep you and your wife got at night since the babies were born and in the hospital, will be the last really good sleep you get for several years.

hahahaha.

Schedules are great Jon. 

I never kept a feeding schedule with my boys.  I fed them when they were hungry.  Babies are growing so fast they may get hungry between "scheduled" feedings, and don't understand why they are being made to suffer with hunger.  I can't imagine how many calories growing actually takes...

But of course I am NOT offering this as advice.  Just talking about my experience with my kids.

You probably have enough advice to fill a toilet now.  hahahah.

Thanks for the update.  I hope your trio is soon home and snug.

on Feb 11, 2007
Schedules are great Jon.


Yes they are! But I won't burst your bubble...for now...!



I'm glad to see you were able to take little Tabitha home!

I'm having fun putting something together!



on Feb 11, 2007

It does sound presumptious, but then I dont think any of us had to raise triplets!  So in a little while, you will be the authority and us other parents just amatures!

Congrats on getting one home.

on Feb 11, 2007
How exciting for you and your wife. I hope the other two are home soon.

You may lose sleep, but you will gain everything else.
on Feb 11, 2007
I never kept a feeding schedule with my boys. I fed them when they were hungry.


Whether we like it our not schedules are apart of our new order. They are just guidelines though. I don't intend to leave a baby hungry but I am sure you can imagine how difficult it would be if one eats a 1:00am one at 2:30am and the other at 3:00am. There just wouldn't be any time for the rest it is going to take to be successful at this.

We have a nurse who has been at this hospital for 30 years. She has only had one other job in her life. She is absolutely amazing. Many of the nurses tell you what they are taught. She speaks from the wisdom of watching many sets of multiples grow up. We also have another nurse who has 3 year old triplets.

Neither of these ladies gives us the advice you get in the books. They make sure that we understand what should be difficult and the things that you sometimes have to bend the rules on.

But of course I am NOT offering this as advice. Just talking about my experience with my kids.


That's the thing about advice ... everyone has some. I try not to poopoo it though. I store them and one day I may have to call upon one of those pearls of wisdom when I have exhausted all of my other options.

I'm glad to see you were able to take little Tabitha home!


We are really just eating it up. I can't wait to have them crawling all over me!

It does sound presumptious, but then I don’t think any of us had to raise triplets!


We have kind of gone through this process with another couple that lives here. Their babies were born a couple of weeks ago. I think it will be nice to have someone close that is going through similar things.

I don't mean to come across as a know it all. I know only one thing for sure... I have a lot to learn but I'm ready.

You may lose sleep, but you will gain everything else.


Sleep is a small price to pay for the enormous gift we have been given. I am so glad they will all be home soon. I am ready for it to really hit me that we have triplets.
on Feb 11, 2007
if one eats a 1:00am one at 2:30am and the other at 3:00am


Oh yeah, I keep forgetting about them not all eating at the same time. hahaha

I only did one at a time...so I forgot they might all be hungry at diff times...probably will!

You are a level headed guy Jon, your babies are lucky to have you!

on Feb 11, 2007
I just wanted to say, admittedly very late, congrats on your three bundles of joy.  I hope all continues to go well.
on Feb 11, 2007
lol...I have to chuckle at you because I just can't imagine how...overwhelming everything must be. I mean...I'm sure that you and your lovely bride are on top of everything, but I try and put myself in your shoes, and I just...AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! That's what I do. I don't think *I* could be the parent of multiples. BUT I'M SO EXCITED THAT YOU AND YOUR WIFE ARE! YIPPEE!

I'm also so excited that they're starting to come home! I hope things to well with Tabitha and little Parrish and Chloe when its their turns to join all of you! I bet it will be nice to all just be *home*--but maybe a little scary, too? I bet you and Michelle are doing wonderfully. I'm so happy for you, JJ, and I'm so glad that your dream of parenthood has come true! Congratulations over and over and over again!
on Feb 12, 2007
You are a level headed guy Jon, your babies are lucky to have you!


Thank you! We are trying really hard to capture all of the data. We have to keep track of who's doing what (for at least a little while) like they did at the hospital. It's hard enough to remeber how much one kid poops a day. We have some little spreadsheets to write on similar to the ones the hospital uses but with much less detail.

We have noticed that Tabitha really misses her sister and brother. This is the first time in almost her whole life that she has been alone in her bed. She also doesn't like sleeping on her back all that much. The hospital always had them on their belly becuase the were on the monitors and it was better for their digestion. We asked them to start getting Parrish and Chloe sleeping on their backs. Even if they are only in the hospital a couple more days, they can start getting used to it.

congrats on your three bundles of joy.


Thank you very much!

I don't think *I* could be the parent of multiples.


Michelle told my mom before we ever got married that she was only getting pregnant once and she was having triplet boys. It came true *mostly*. I really think we are built for this. Our relationship is strong and I think that is going to be the one thing that helps most when it gets hard.

Hope all goes well!


All in all it is going well. I am ready to get them all home so we can see what we are really in for.