ten days
Published on August 27, 2007 By just john In Home & Family
It's been ten days since I've seen or held my children. My wife's grandmother is in her final days and I could not or would not deny her all of the time she can to spend with her.

I miss my kids, I miss my wife and I miss my life. I had no idea of how much I had changed. In bed by 8 up by 4:30. Some nights with very little sleep in between. So much going undone without caring. Now, alone with so much to do.

I've tried to stay busy. I've cleared the over growth in the back yard. The house is spotless. So many of the little projects that never get finished or started are done. In the end though the house is still empty.

I leave the music and light show on in the baby’s room. I walk by and convince myself that they are only sleeping. Can't wake the babies, I tell myself over and over.

Pictures only make it more difficult. I see the subtle changes that I notice as they transform here. Ten days. Seems like a lifetime.

Only four more days and I will see them. Four more long days.

**I'm feeling a little self indulgent tonight. This too shall pass.

Comments
on Aug 27, 2007
I'm sorry John. You sound like such a good daddy. Just stay busy and time will pass quickly.

As much as it sucks to be here by myself for over a year, I hurt for Adrian because I can't imagine going so long without the children. He is far stronger than I am. It was very hard for him to leave after Isabella's birth. He misses the boys, but it's a lot different to leave a 9 year old and come back to a 10 year old than to leave a newborn and come back to a toddler.

When he left all she did was eat and sleep. Now she walks, climbs, claps, eats, squeals, says mama and bubba and waves bye-bye. She has preferences for food and toys and everything else. Poor guy.

on Aug 27, 2007
Selfish bastard, think about what she must be feeling about now.

Just a bit of a reality slap in the face.
on Aug 28, 2007
Only three more to go! Hang in there John I'm sure they miss you too!
on Aug 28, 2007

What a sweet article john.  I hope your wife reads it.  She will certainly appreciate coming home to a clean house!

Get some rest!

on Aug 29, 2007

Thinking of it only makes the time go slower.  I know it is hard, but try to think of work instead.

And good luck with the final couple of days.

on Sep 21, 2007
U STINK